Best of Communities: VI. Agreements, Conflict, and Communication

Agreements, Conflict, and CommunicationMost of us didn’t grow up learning good ways to work with conflict or strong emotional expression. For most of us it’s just plain scary, and we bring that naivete and scarring into our community lives. Many groups mistakenly think that the frequency of conflict is a barometer of community health, but it isn’t. The litmus test is how you handle conflict; not how much you have.The Agreements, Conflict, and Communication bundle offers a handful of articles about working constructively with distress and conflict, as well as a smorgasbord of information about agreements and communication skills that are hallmarks of mature, healthy groups. You don’t have to make it all up from scratch! These pieces showcase some of the best things that intentional communities have to offer the wider culture.This Digital Issue about Agreements, Conflict, and Communication Trust, Connection, and Clear Agreements (including Wild Sage Cohousing’s Conflict Resolution Process, Shari Leach) Diana Leafe Christian, #1282. When Some of Us Don’t Support an Existing Agreement by Beatrice Briggs, Laird Schaub,Tree Bressen, Caroline Estes, Karl Steyaert, #1343. Problem Solving in How a Group Addresses Issues Says a Lot about Its Cohesion . . . and Vice Versa Laird Schaub, #1464. How Collaboration Falls Hints About How to Help It Go Long by Laird Schaub, #1445. Conflict,Terrorism & The Cooperator’s Response Laird Schaub, #1136. Ruth” or Defining Tough Love for Groups Laird Schaub, #1327. Once More With Conflict as an Opportunity for Harnessing Emotional Energy by Laird Sandhill, Directory 20008. Working on Your Issues with Someone (Whether or Not They Join In) by Tree Bressen, #1249. Nonviolent Transforming Conflict and Enhancing Connection by Miki Kashtan, #10410. AAA for the Sometimes You Need a Map to Navigate Emotional Territory by Laird Schaub, #11711. The Tao of Speaking & Listening Scott Shuker, #10412. But Seriously Folks…When to Take a Joke and When to Give One by Laird Schaub, #11313. Living ‘Naka-Ima’ at Lost Valley Larry Kaplowitz, #10414. Using Email for Community-Wide Conversations? A Few Words of Caution . . . by Laird Schaub, #12515. “No, It’s Not a Cult”: Relating to Your Family When You Live in Community by Mariana Caplan, #96