Fixed It for You: Volume 1: Rescuing and Reframing Common Evangelical Teachings about Sex and Marriage

Get ready to Fix It–and find Jesus again! Has the advice you’ve heard in church circles about marriage, sex and gender roles made you feel small? Attacked? Unloved? Does it make you feel like God must be angry at you? That He doesn’t want the best for you? That He thinks you’re less than other people? Or maybe you’re going through a faith shift and you don’t know how to talk about it with those around you. How can you make them see what you’ve starting to see? Fixed It for Yous are a simple tool that can jumpstart engaging and fruitful conversations about who God really is and what he thinks about women, about sex, about marriage.This workbook of 30 Fixed it For Yous contains 30 problematic quotes from evangelical leaders, all "fixed" for you, along with 180 questions to use as journalling prompts, as conversation starters with your spouse or friends, or even as a small group discussion! We take thirty terrible things that have been said by different Christian leaders, and “fix” them to look more like Jesus. And then we give you tools to see what’s off, and journaling questions to level up your discernment! The book includes 30 Fixed It for Yous, including some of the favourites from Sheila Gregoire's social media, and 10 never-before-seen ones! covering Masculinity, Femininity, Marriage, Sex, Boundaries, and Responsibility for Sin. You’ll find Fixed It for Yous John PiperJohn MacArthurGary ThomasEmerson EggerichsShaunti FeldhahnSteve ArterburnDesiring GodThe Gospel CoalitionAnd even me! (That’s right! I even fixed myself!)And each Fixed it For You includes the context of the quote; 6 questions to help you discern what’s healthy and what’s not that you can use with others, or that you can journal yourself; and a red flag section to help you recognize when something is off. Our surveys of over 32,500 people for our books The Great Sex Rescue, She Deserves Better, and The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex have found that a lot of teaching in the evangelical church actually makes marriage and sex worse. It lowers self-esteem. It increases fear. That’s not of Jesus. As a child, you likely sang, “Jesus loves me, this I know…” But as you got older, you may have heard terrible things about this Jesus who is supposed to love you. You’ve heard that He’d rather you suffer and be abused than get to safety. You’ve heard that you have to measure up to specific roles or else you’re a failure. If you’re a woman, you’ve heard that He loves other people more than He loves you. Isn’t it time that we find that Jesus who loves you again? Isn’t it time that we stop letting toxic teachings that have run rampant in church steal God from us and make us feel alone, dirty, or ashamed? Let these 30 Fixed It For Yous take you on a journey rediscovering God, and validating what you have always known to be true. And let them give you an easy way to start these conversations with your spouse, as you’re snuggling in bed; with your friends as you sip coffee in the local Starbucks; even with your small group as you try to cut through the weeds of the toxic theology you grew up with. Save it on your phone so it’s always available when you’re with friends.